Find What You Love to do and GO for it!

04 Jan Find What You Love to do and GO for it!

Its only been since August since my last post… Clearly I am never going to be the guy who posts on a regular basis and gets ad revenue to support my blog. That’s ok, my main reason for doing this is for my kids, and by the time they read these it won’t matter how long I went in between blogs. If I have any “fans” out there I apologize for the complete lack of schedule. 2015 was a hectic year. We added this little guy to the brood in October.


Emmerich James

Update on My Life

I basically spent all of my time working, remodeling my house, or remodeling other peoples houses. It was a pretty stressful year. As my old buddy Dave Ramsey always says income is your most powerful wealth building tool. As we have known for a while, our income needs to go up. For years we have been doing this via myself working a second job, which happens to be doing tile and flooring installation. The problem with this is in order to make more money I have to work additional hours to my normal 40 a week. This is not sustainable long term, and now that we are a family of 5, it is even tougher on my wife at home.

In my industry “Mass Appraisal” there is essentially 1 employer per County or sometimes City. That is the County or City Assessor/Appraiser. So one does not have many employment options if they are not happy where they are at, or are ready and able to advance in their career. Over the past year I have become more involved in my industries “International Association” and have been able to meet and get to know many people in the industry. The consensus from those who have come before me is clear; if you want to advance your career, you have to move. I have always known this but have held out hope that something would come up in my office. Amazingly, this past year my bosses position opened up and right before my son was born I interviewed for it. Then I went on paternity leave. I felt strongly I was the right choice for the job, I worked closely with the previous boss and did many functions of the position. I met all the requirements and had a good re-pore with the staff. However, while still on paternity leave I was informed I was not selected for the position, and found out later they hired someone from the outside. My point in this story is that we can’t wait around hoping good things happen. My wife and I have decided it’s time to finally take the plunge and expand our job search outside our home state. We realize that it will be difficult moving away from friends and family, but nothing we do has to be permanent. We want to experience more things in life, we want to have stories to tell outside of Wichita, KS. I am looking forward to a new adventure and a fresh start. I have several interviews lined up so we will see what happens.

The Blog

Find What You Love to do and GO for it!

I am about to turn 30, and I have no idea what I “love” to do or what I could be excellent at. Its my biggest disappointment in life. I wish there was something I knew I would love doing as a career, no matter how crazy it was. For some reason I haven’t figured it out. This is why I stress to every young college person to figure this out. Obviously those of us past college can still figure it out too, it’s just harder and much more complicated. Sometimes we know what we would love to do, but getting there while supporting a family seems next to impossible. Let me tell you, if you actually know what your dream is, develop goals with measurable objectives and figure out a way to go for it. Even if it’s a 10 year plan (or 20). Most people spend half their waking hours “working”, but when it’s something you love it’s not work. These people have a much better chance at achieving happiness. If you’re happy with half of your waking hours then it is much easier to be happy with the other half. However, if you’re not happy at work problems at work bleed into your home life and it can be hard to shut them off as soon as you get home even if you want to.

My Search…

While I have searched for a career I love I have been accused of only caring about money and just being obsessed with making more money. I have maintained (and this is the truth), that I care about a better quality of life, and a certain amount of money will bring that. It’s not being able to buy more stuff that I care about, it’s the peace of mind. It’s knowing I don’t have to work extra unless I want to. It’s knowing I can save for retirement and still be able to save money every month for anything else: a trip, upgrading a vehicle, kids college, etc. I want to have better peace of mind and also be doing something I love, some people think that it too much to ask for: I don’t. I have considered medical or PA school, and have taken most of the pre-requisites to apply to either, but I am not 100% sure it’s what I would love to do. Also, at this point in my life I cannot have $0 income for any amount of time, which both options require. After taking a Microbiology class my interest in that field was piqued, especially virology. There are some possibilities, however I don’t feel as though I can work on these things until my income situation is taken care of. I literally do not have time to focus on anything else.

Don’t take for granted your options…

I want to stress to everyone, please find what you love to do and go for it. Do not let people discourage you, and if they try to; ask them if they are doing what they love. If not, why would they tell you not to? I remember being told in high school that becoming a doctor was too hard and took too long. I remember at 21 thinking I would enjoy being a structural engineer and then deciding against it because it would add 5 more years to my schooling. We are often scared to take risks for fear of failing. But what is worse than never taking a risk and going to a “job” you don’t like for 40 or 50 years? If you are in high school or college think long and hard about what your dream is, and if you don’t have one, you don’t have to get your degree yet. Take some time off and travel (another thing that will be much harder later in life). Everybody wants to be set at 22 and ready to start their forever career. But what if you don’t even know what you would enjoy or be good at? If you are in a later stage of your life, it’s never too late to make a change. It will just take more careful planning and consideration. See my blog on Peoples Biggest Regrets if you need further convincing.


Message to Claire: Well, this whole blog was basically a message to you. Do whatever you can to find something you love to do and I will do whatever I can to help you get there. Right now you say you want to be a “Horsey Doctor”. That would be awesome.