09 May Passing Judgment, and Other Fun Topics to Discuss with Family
It has been a while since my last post, I wish I was able to keep up posting better. I am almost finished with the semester and hopefully this summer I will be able to do a bunch of blogs as I will not be taking summer classes. This semester has been pretty rough, 10 credit hours to go along with working full time and 2 kids. The credits may not sound like a lot, but because it is split between 4 classes (Bio and Chem each with labs) it made for a rather difficult schedule. Luckily my employer was willing to let me work around it. But this meant coming in at 630 am and working until 5 Monday through Friday going to class in between on most days. Then I hear a story about a guy going back to school at 35 with 3 kids, working 2 jobs, and took 65 credit hours in a year in order to apply to med school. Then I realize what I am doing isn’t THAT hard. I am fairly confident I can pull an A in chemistry but I think a B in Biology is more realistic. There goes my 4.0 only 2 semesters in. Oh well, enough about school. My wife is still being awesome and staying home raising our two children while I am gone more than I would like (Shout out). They are both growing really fast. Anyway, on to the blog.
Message to Claire: This one should be obvious. As with a lot of my messages this may seem redundant, but that just means it’s important. Everyone judges, it’s human nature, it’s a flaw in our design. Or at least a flaw in our thinking. We can’t help ourselves, we must know why people do things, and if we can’t find out we will come up with our own reasons. I met someone once very briefly and came away from that meeting thinking they were rude and wondering why anyone would want to be around them. They had not made the best first impression on me. However, upon subsequent meetings they were always pleasant and nice to be around. This is similar to the “Hollywood effect”. Let me explain. Famous actors, actresses, musicians, athletes, etc are expected to be on their best behavior at all times. Why? Because if they are not and they meet a fan and are rude to them, it could be on YouTube, Reddit, Facebook , twitter, etc and then everyone says how much of a jerk they are to their fans. As if they don’t face getting stopped 100 times a day by random people on the street. I know what you might be thinking, boo-hoo they make millions of dollars. Well guess what, it’s been proven that money does not buy happiness. And rich people are entitled to be in bad moods. So unless all you ever hear are negative stories about someone (Russell Crowe? Maybe he was just in bad moods 684 times in a row), then probably take them with a grain of salt. I’m not just talking about Hollywood people. Give all people the benefit of the doubt. See for yourself, and even if they make a bad first impression give them a second chance. Although I will say three strikes and you’re out may need to be applied.